THE RELATIONSHIP CHALLENGE

Relationships are fundamental to our life experience and learning and yet they provide us with the greatest challenges. Just look at us, billions of people, all from diverse socio-economic backgrounds, cultures, faith and gender. We have different levels and types of educations, interests, opinions and preferences. In spite of all of this we have commonality ie we are humans who love and laugh and who simply ask for the very best for themselves and their families. In its simplest form, people want shelter, safety, nutrition, freedom, love and peace.

If this is so then why isn’t Earth resonating with the vibration of joy and peace? We can look outside of ourselves and complain about wars, manipulation and control and yet the larger world is only a macrocosm of our own experience.

Macrocosm (the larger world): Wars, hatred, murder, death

Microcosm (our local and inner world): We hate, criticize and judge thereby creating disharmonious relationships,. We keep hatred alive by talking unlovingly about others, – we are the chemical and biological warfare! Our lack of love creates our own inharmony, our own destruction.

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”  The Buddah

Isn’t it true that if you knew someone didn’t like you, you would want them to acknowledge, or know about, some of the goodness that you know is you? With the exception of psychopaths and sociopaths, all humanity want goodness to flow in their lives and to experience that in others.

So, what then if you have people in your life who challenge your peace and tranquility?

You could wish they were different until the cows come home but we all know that all that wishing isn’t any value at all. You need to create peace by accepting your reality as it is, not as you would wish it to be.

If you have a relationship-challenge you can take this to the next level and tune into the magnificent Being behind the person. The puppeteer, creating a new and different experience from which all have the opportunity to grow. What might this look like, sound like, you may ask?

What then are the practical steps I would take to experience someone differently? I am not going to focus on their physical form or experience as I know that that is a flawed sense of who they are limited by human judgement and opinion. I know that there is one being which is thinking each of us into existence. This Being, or Source, Oneness, the God Source is infinite and exists always at the standpoint of perfection.

My steps are to daily:

1. Acknowledge their being as part of the Source, the same as yourself

2. Don’t think of them as a body with their designated name. Think of them as the grand and magnificent Light which they are. Feel the love for them as Source acting as an individual

3. Imagine the Light, the colour and vibrancy of the light that they radiate outwards and have it embrace and encompass you

4. Express gratitude and appreciation for the growth that is being created for you through this relationship with yourself!

5. Persist with this practice until you feel differently about them because you now know and appreciate who they really are.